Sexualized Children

 

 

Paperclips are not usually magnetic - but they can become so.

 

Alfred Kinsey has convinced us that ‘children are sexual from birth’.  From that platform, society is taught that to repress or inhibit that ‘sexuality’ in any way is unhealthy for them.

 

Dale O’Leary:

Speech to Delaware Pro-Life Conference                                                                             

The primary goal of the Sexual Revolution is the sexualization of children. Sexual Revolutionaries understand that if children are brought up chaste and modest, and protected from sexual molestation and early sexualization, their agenda will fail. They need to break down sexual restraint early.

 

Why are our children doing so badly in school? Why do we see unprecedented violence between children? In many cases I am convinced that these are the direct effects of the sexualization of children.

 

What do we know about children and sex? We know that young children from birth to six are capable of sensations associated with their sexual organs, and emotional attachments. But they do not need to engage in sexual activity. The work of childhood is growing up.

 

Around age six the child enters the latency period. During this period the child forms relationships with his peers and particularly with same-sex peers. While I was in Ireland… an elementary school principal spoke about the importance of the latency period. He explained that during this period children need to be protected from sexualizing influences, because this is the period in which they develop virtues such as compassion, empathy, courage, honesty, and discipline. If the child is sexualized during the latency period, this development is short circuited and these children never develop these virtues. They grow up morally stunted, seeing themselves as valuable only for their sexuality, detached from their own bodies, and unable to properly value others as persons. As he spoke tears came to my eyes because I had seen the shining faces of children on the roads of country Ireland -- bright, beautiful, and innocent -- and contrasted them with the children I see on the street of my own city -- hollow-eyed, cynical, estranged from themselves.

 

In this country we spend a fortune on education and then complain that it fails. How can we expect to keep the attention of sexualized children? Any good teacher will tell you that they can pick out the sexually abused child - distracted, depressed, acting out -- the symptoms are obvious. What is less obvious is the semi-abused child, the one whose innocence has been stolen not by some paedophile hanging around the park or some lecherous uncle, but by a culture that sends sexualized commercials and soap operas into their bedrooms on their very own color TV's.

 

 

Judith Reisman:

Kinsey data was used to prove that children were sexual from birth. What it actually proves is that even very small children can be molested

 

 

From Reflections of Moral Innocence (ROMI): Harris survey

A Harris survey conducted for Planned Parenthood back in 1987 (covering a 10 year period) demonstrated that with virtually unlimited tax dollars, school based comprehensive sex education curriculum saw teen pregnancy double and teen abortions rise 300%.

 

The belief that comprehensive sex education curriculums do not encourage teen promiscuity was also shattered by the survey.  Girls who had no exposure to school based sex education programs had the lowest rate of pregnancy.  Those who had the most exposure had the highest rates.  In fact the more money spent the higher the pregnancy and abortion rates.

 

 

From the Journal of the Australian Family Association 

Article:  Sex Education and the Young – Anne Lastman (Post abortion grief counsellor)

 

“After having reviewed several sex ed programs I have come to the conclusion that it is no wonder that the sacredness of human life is absent from the knowledge of children who have attended or had these programs inflicted on them.  Indeed I would have been surprised if it were otherwise…  SE programs are not only destructive but are clearly and unambiguously anti – life, and ultimately the antithesis of all that is good and from God.  Abortions in 13, 14, 15 and 16 year olds becomes possible when a young person’s sexuality is assaulted.  This, either through abandonment by parents and the placement in the hands of those who do not have the interest of the young person at heart, or by visual stimulation whether by the medium of television, video’s, movies, or by communal group discussion about sexual organs and practices (class)…   

 

Sexuality is not on a par with math’s, English or information technology.  It is about holiness, wholeness, integrity, sacredness and life… As a post abortion grief counsellor I have encountered many young and very young women who have been wounded by their abortion experience.  However from my own observation it was not only abortion that wounded them but also a pseudo maturity, which they had become entrapped in and lived.  Young males and females not fully entered into puberty yet participating in acts too mature for their psychological/spiritual development.”

 

Please don’t miss the point of the Harris survey above.  It’s not that these programs might necessarily promote abortion as a choice (though some do) it’s more that information can be both stimulating as well as acting as a suggestion.

 

As we bring the focus in from society - to church and school - to family and personal life, we are challenged to consider how much of Kinsey’s man-made agenda has been lived out in our homes, ideas, attitudes, conduct and parenting.

 

The only objective standard we have is scripture.  Every era in history has had its own set of problems, inconsistencies and sin.  Victorian times saw the legs of furniture covered for modesty’s sake but women removed the ‘modesty pieces’ from the bodices of their dresses for evening wear.  I don’t mean to paint the picture that prior to Kinsey our world was a utopia.  It wasn’t - and I am very aware that there will be people present whose memory of a previous generation is not one that is favourable.

 

Remember I refer to the general moral consensus being one that was generally more reflective of biblical values prior to, rather than post, – Kinsey.

 

Something that I find helpful in sorting out the wrong, rights or principles is to consider – similarly to “What Would Jesus Do?” is “Imagine Jesus”.  If the thought is so incongruous to what we would imagine Jesus having done – we have a principle to follow for we know that He was sinless.  For example could you imagine the youthful Jesus behaving with a girlfriend the way so many of our young people behave in relationships and call it “preparing for marriage”?  The thought so revolts me I cannot begin to imagine it. 

 

 

Of Protection / Preparation

The context in which I speak of protection is that of guarding their innocence – against the world’s influences that surround us.  I am not specifically addressing the issues of protection against sexual abuse.  That would be another whole topic.  However the protection I do speak of is an element in building healthy safe limits that can assist against abuse.

 

The imagination is capable of building images never actually seen or experienced.  Lack of explicit knowledge can work for the protection of a child’s imagination.  Explicit terminology is such that it goes to work in the mind of a child – to be built upon by other exposures (almost always to be heard within a sexual frame of reference) defiling their mind.  We are to guard against the effects of the world in our child’s minds and hearts to the best of our ability.  It’s important to recognise here that the information you mean for good – the world will use for evil.  Other more general terms are not necessarily spoken of in sexual framework (or even at all) so the child is less open to defilement.

 

Gary Ezzo: Reflections of Moral Innocence
Protecting the sexual innocence of our children involves taking steps to prevent or at least minimize the intrusion of moral perversion in the minds of our children until they are old enough to develop a moral value system that can internally regulate their behaviour and their moral decisions.

Preparation not only identifies the process by which the parents communicate moral values to their children, but also how they live out their value system in front of their children.

 

Protection does not override preparation – both are needed.  Protection does not condone ignorance.  Failure to prepare a child (for the changes in their body) is negligence (neglect is a form of abuse). 

 

However I would rather be over zealous on the side of overprotection than of under protection.  You can always release them to more information.  It is far harder to erase the effects of too much information.

 

The word “protection” does imply danger and logical response.

 

 

Innocence/Ignorance/Insulation

Living in the age of information, this phrase alone tends to imply that ALL information is good.  Sometimes it’s not that information is bad as much as:

• Too much is overwhelming
• Too much is unnecessary
• Too much is confusing
• Too much is burdensome
• Too much too soon is too much
• Issues too weighty for our children extend beyond sexual matters.  They are children for such a short time – their turn at shouldering the burdens of the world will come in time, e.g. the evening news.

Too much information can lead to:

• Fear – might that happen here or to me?
• Inoculation - against caring about the very thing spoken of. (How much impact for the starving children in Ethiopia REALLY have on our generation???).
• Grief – Sometimes a book is so descriptive that it can cause real abiding grief and/or identification with characters or life experiences.  Do our kids really need grief that isn’t theirs, to have to cope with?

 

NOT TALKING IGNORANCE

Age appropriateness… bring them into knowledge gradually. 

 

Ezzo: “The Proactive Indirect Method of Sex Education”

• Imagination – extensive discussion on how we can help protect our children’s imaginations
• The use of General rather than explicit terms – the reasons, and the alternatives
• Instruct to Principle. Every time we train in principle we train across the board.  Preferable to training for a specific action to a specific circumstance. Eg. teaching patience in waiting for a drink translates to other things too.
• Teaches to create opportunities to train
• Teaches ‘Whole child’ appropriateness.  That knowledge is to be progressive.
• Moral and chronological (whole child preparedness) age
• What is their REAL question? (Protection)
• What is their need of knowledge? (Preparation)
• The earlier you start the better.  The broader the base and the less intrusion.
• Information that you mean for good the world means for evil.

 

HOLINESS

Believe it or not, presenting our children as virgins on their wedding day is not the goal.  Holiness is – and within that, purity, chastity, modesty.  Holiness is the context into which everything to follow fits.

 

 

Purity/ CHASTITY

Purity defined…

Cleanness; freedom from foulness or dirt; as the purity of a garment.

Freedom from guilt or the defilement of sin ; innocence ; as purity of heart or life.

 

Chastity defined…

Freedom from contamination by illicit sexual connection. 

Lisa Bevere:

“God wants to move us beyond the restraint of the law (which arouses sin) and plant us into a garden of longing — where our sexuality and passion is carefully guarded and cultivated until the time for its awakening”. 

 

Purity is not something to maintain only until marriage.

Lisa Bevere:

“God’s laws were not put in place to steal our joy or pleasure, but to protect them!”